The universe we live in has abundant, endless, creative possibilities. Whatever you desire, you can have.
With one little secret:
You also have to be free *not* to have it.
In other words, you can only have it to the degree that you’re also free not to have it.
If you want to be more thin, don’t focus on being heavy. If you want to be successful as a parent, don’t focus on any failures.
Why? Because we get what we resist.
Do we vote for freedom or a certain principal? Rarely. We usually vote against something we don’t want: We vote against taxes, against exorbitant health insurance costs, we’d vote against being too fat if we could.
Do you have team meetings at work? There’s always that person who brings up what they don’t want—or why something can’t work—or all the potential customers who didn’t… it’s really just one customer actually…
And we’re missing the point. We need to focus on what we want—on creating success. Why?
Your focus becomes your experience.
Two doctors: both just started a new practice.
Doctor A is worried that only one person came in the first day, the next day brought a few more people but one of them complained, the computers didn’t work right and… well that’s it, I know I shouldn’t have that doughnut but it’s been a really bad day.
Doctor B sees success. That one person who came in the first day was an encouraging sign. The client who wasn’t happy, well, of course not—he was in pain, but it was so exciting to help someone. And help them is exactly what happened. This new-business person was so energized by helping this one person that they went home and went for a longer run than usual. Then they stayed committed to their own nourishment so they could do even better the next day.
What was different?
Life holds many unpleasant truths. At the topmost echelons of our country, and for decades, all sorts of shenanigans have taken place in healthcare, US Dietary recommendations, Big Pharma influence on what does and what doesn’t get researched and therefore taught in medical school, Wall street, sometimes even our Constitution seems to have been forgotten. Cities squabble about what size cola a person is allowed to buy at the fast food “restaurant” and miss the whole point. It can feel like choice and voice doesn’t matter. It does.
Heck, just having to avoid a poor driver is still resisting something you don’t want. What about believing there will be good drivers today? Or smooth-flowing traffic?
It is natural to resist the nonsense, to want no part of it. BUT if you’re resisting it, your mind is focused on what you *don’t* want. And whether it is a traffic jam or more taxes, that is what you’ll get.
You don’t want your child crying through the night? I understand. You don’t want that back ache? Got it. Tired of drinking contaminated water? Me too.
As soon as you give yourself permission to be woken up, be fat, be silly publicly or even pay more taxes, you stop resisting what you don’t want and free your mind to focus on creating success.
When I started with Hands On Health Care, I felt weak, was shaking a lot and lacked balance. I had high blood pressure, was severely overweight and my gastroenterology doctor said I had liver cirrhosis.
Dr. C recommended a program that included working with Phyllis to learn what to eat and not eat. As I met with Phyllis, I transitioned to a meat protein and vegetable diet—what a challenge to remove the gluten, dairy, sugar, and unhealthy fats! But I was feeling so bad that I decided to do it.
Phyllis showed me how simple it was to make foods like bone broth and coconut milk kefir that would help me heal. I learned that nuts were a great base for many things and almond cheese is a delicious non-dairy food.
I developed a recipe for AM green smoothies: romaine lettuce, spinach, strawberries, blueberries, cinnamon, vanilla and almond milk or kefir; blended until smooth and sometimes with Chia seeds or flax meal. Tastes great and gives me energy all morning!
Dr. Childers and Phyllis have shown me what to do to become more healthy! Their care and compassion gives me support and I’ve learned to take care of myself in natural ways. My blood pressure is now 120/80 and I’ve lost 65 pounds!! I truly appreciate what HOHC has done for me. —Jo I
But Doc, are you saying get happy about being fat? or paying taxes?
No; turn those challenges into great transformation. This is the #1 tool in the toolkit for managing stress. Respond creatively and make any change you’d like.
First there is a thought that goes before every action and, second, there is an action. The enjoyment, perception and success of any action depends solely on putting thought into what you want.
Thought: I want a source of clean drinking water. Even though my city water chlorine/chloramine, fluoride and some many hundreds of other contaminants give me something else, I still want my water. The water I want is as nature intended it: pure and complete with minerals obtained by running through the earth and down streams.
Action: I go to the store and am offered reverse osmosis. I now check this against my thought. Hmmm no minerals; not exactly like nature. Sorry, I tell salesman. No action.
This is important: If you don’t put any thought into what you want—it will turn out random and you might not like the result.
If you only put thought into what you don’t want—that’s what you’ll get.
Negative thought—what I don’t want—and no thought; both will trip you up every time.
Decide what you’d like, ideally, and stop resisting things entirely. No more “but what about (negative/problem)” or “she never does what she’s told” or even “I don’t want any more chlorine.” What DO you want?
Visualize and express what your DO want as the first step in putting thought into action.
You get to succeed; you deserve it.
Your thoughts matter
Do those negative thoughts creep in, despite repeated efforts to keep them at bay?
“I don’t want to be fat.” or “…in pain” or “…tired all the time” or…
Convert that thought into a very clear image of what you want. You *can* maintain a positive outlook, even under negative circumstances.
Fearful thoughts act like magnets, drawing that which you don’t want closer to you. And then you’ll never get what you want. Let go of them. Be free to have them.
There is a lot of science behind this!
Are we leaving out a huge piece of what it means to be human?
The medical model is to find out what causes disease. The holistic model is to find out how to create health:
Body signs of stress
|Disrupted melatonin||yoga||correct melatonin rhythm|
|meditation||restored diurnal rhythm and immune function|
|High Intensity Interval Training
|rebalances cortisol and hormones|
|Anxiety/depression||music, meditation||lowered psychosocial stress|
|movement/dance||overall quality of life|
|Cancer||trained harm avoidance||reduced fear and anxiety|
|drawing||decreased depression, anxiety, guilt|
(get sick easily)
|music||calmed central brain increased immune|
|emotional writing||improved immune function|
|Heart disease||music||reduced stress / improved heart|
|drawing||reduced hospital stays / reduced meds|
|Pain management||drawing||reduced pain medications|
|emotional writing||lowered pain severity|
Heart “R waves” and brain “alpha waves”
Gratitude for what you DO have is one of the best antidotes. Heart R waves and brain alpha waves can both be recorded. The heart wave and brain waves of gratitude are smooth and rhythmic like a beautiful piece of music. The heart and brain waves of anxiety, stress, fear… are jagged, irregular, rough and look like noise. But did you know… ?
A boy petting his dog and feeling gratitude can create comforting, smooth heart waves in the dog.
A mother holding her child and projecting gratitude can create comforting, smooth brain waves in the infant.
That same mother, coached instead to take her attention off her baby and put it on paying bills, shopping for the family, being late for work, or anything else… will create stressful, anxious, jagged heart waves in herself and brain waves in the baby.
Several years ago I was in an auto accident which caused serious spinal injuries—resulting in horrible headaches and total body pain.
Someone advised that I see Dr. Edward Childers. Dr. Childers’ gentle hands providing craniosacral therapy began giving relief soon after I started. Continuing seeing him has helped to make me almost pain free.
There are many things I admire about Dr. Childers, among them is he never has the attitude that he “knows it all.” He continues to listen and to learn. Another thing to greatly admire is his interest in sharing his knowledge and skills with others who are learning—students who are becoming D.O.’s, therapists, and of course his patients.
Dr. Childers’ staff are super! His wife Phyllis RN who is amazing craniosacral therapist also, and of course Grace, Sarah, the whole team are kind and caring people.
Sincerely and with appreciation, Martha Van Houten
Toss out the negative thoughts and “be in the moment”
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” —Willie Nelson
Every day tell someone else what you are happy you have. Nourish yourself—physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Plan these in, daily.
Make and go after your DO list.
Focus your mind on things you want more of in your life.
Share the positive things you envision with others.
And be in the moment—that is, after all, why you have wonderful people around you.
And remember, the more you feel free to fail, the easier it is to succeed… at anything. Go figure!